talking

have you ever noticed how big problems seem when you're imagining all possibilities? we search for a solution before we have all the details. for instance, my husband made a vague comment that sounded negative. i spent hours imagining what there might be behind that comment. had i done something? was i missing something i should have done? so i guessed a few things then went on to imagine how i might improve the situation.

well we finally had time to chat. i had not guessed correctly about the problem. all my worrying was wasted time. the problem was troubling but knowing the details eased my mind. finally we could look at the situation and think together about ways to work through the difficulty. granted, we didn't think of a solution, but talking made the problem manageable. we can move forward together.

i like this quote:

Worry doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.
...Corrie Ten Boom

talk. get all the details. if you must worry, do it together.